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This is sort of off topic, but what do you do when you have zero idea how to read the room? I feel like every place I post or talk is just this labyrinth of shibboleths and social rules, norms, and culture that I can never crack, so I've just been relegated to lurking and lurking and never saying anything because any time I do, shit like this happens as yet ANOTHER social rule I didn't know about creeps out of the void.
I'm serious, I can't ever seem to say shit right. When I'm in public I'm always a creep. At least over the years I've been able to pick up on facial expressions/distancing patterns of others around me to figure out by proxy that I'm doing some sort of social faux pas and need to leave. Although I'm usually not able to figure out what exactly I'm doing. When I do it's because someone explicitly tells me and I think, "Oh come on--alright, add another rule to the book to try to memorize." I wasn't able to get a job until I found a book on etiquette and just memorized enough of it to get by.
One place online if you greentext you're a pariah, and another if you plebbit space you're a pariah. I can never figure it out. The only strategy I've found that has worked for me is to try to never, ever say a goddam thing and just completely self isolate myself from social contact. Logically, however, I know that should only make it even worse for me, but I'm at wits end of this and kind of just wonder what I'm doing this for/what I'm getting out of it, and want to give up.